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    Talk to me about juggling therapies, multiple children, chores, etc

    I need some BTDT talk from some of you wise mommas.

    As we start to dip our toes back into a new school year, I'm more nervous than excited. (sigh)

    My twin boys finished up speech therapy in the spring -- hooray --- and now we are in OT. One son is about ready to finish, as he is meeting all of his goals, while his brother is struggling a bit more. We go next week to hear the results of their vision therapy evaluation, and I'm fairly sure they'll both be in vision therapy for a while. One brother's vision issues are a lot worse, (tracking, convergence -- the doctor explained it to me that he had very little depth perception. Makes perfectly good sense now why he jumps the last steps, falls down a lot, etc)

    One of my younger sons is also in speech therapy -- but luckily, that's in our home.

    I'd love to hear how you juggle homeschooling and trips to therapy. I'm hoping to have OT mostly wrapped up before VT starts (probably mid August), but there may be a few weeks of overlapping. Ideally, I'd like to bundle any therapy sessions and/or errands into one day, but logistically, that may not work. Round trip to the OT is an hour, while the drive to VT and back will be closer to 90 minutes.

    What do you all do? Shift to a 4 day school week? Car school? (which doesn't sound very appealing to me) Thoughts?
    Plans for 2019-20

    DD1 - 24 - College Grad and rocking her own bakery business
    DD2 - 13 - 8A Louisville HLS Cottage School and MPOA
    DS3 - 11 - 4A Louisville HLS Cottage School
    DS4 - 11 - 4A Louisville HLS Cottage School
    DD5 - 7 - MP2, Louisville HLS Cottage School
    DS6 - 5 - MP K

    [url]www.thekennedyadventures.com/all-about-our-memoria-press-homeschool[/url]

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    Re: Talk to me about juggling therapies, multiple children, chores, etc

    Hi, Dianna.

    We find it helpful to preserve our mornings at home, when possible, and save "running" for afternoons. We like afternoon doctor appts (first one after the dr/office lunch break). Then we try to run errands afterward.


    When homeschooling at your children's ages, we listened to something during the ride. I tried to make it something I would enjoy (rather than dread), such as composer bio stories with the composer's music, Lingua Angelica for sacred Latin, poetry set to music, or geography songs with substantive lyrics. I was not "teaching, " yet we were learning or at least reviewing.


    You'll figure it out. This is your first year with so many "special's" added in!

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      #3
      Re: Talk to me about juggling therapies, multiple children, chores, etc

      Originally posted by cherylswope View Post
      Hi, Dianna.

      We find it helpful to preserve our mornings at home, when possible, and save "running" for afternoons. We like afternoon doctor appts (first one after the dr/office lunch break). Then we try to run errands afterward.


      When homeschooling at your children's ages, we listened to something during the ride. I tried to make it something I would enjoy (rather than dread), such as composer bio stories with the composer's music, Lingua Angelica for sacred Latin, poetry set to music, or geography songs with substantive lyrics. I was not "teaching, " yet we were learning or at least reviewing.


      You'll figure it out. This is your first year with so many "special's" added in!
      This IS helpful, Cheryl.

      I tend to jump off the deep end into the sea of panic when I perceive something that may derail my finely laid plans. I'm not a good juggler or a sailor who switches midstream. I like a map and a full tank of gas.

      I'm fighting my own sense of failure/incompetence, and it feels like a mountain. I don't talk about it here much, because I know that there are moms here with little ones who need much, much more than my own.

      Keyword for this year -- RELAX.
      Plans for 2019-20

      DD1 - 24 - College Grad and rocking her own bakery business
      DD2 - 13 - 8A Louisville HLS Cottage School and MPOA
      DS3 - 11 - 4A Louisville HLS Cottage School
      DS4 - 11 - 4A Louisville HLS Cottage School
      DD5 - 7 - MP2, Louisville HLS Cottage School
      DS6 - 5 - MP K

      [url]www.thekennedyadventures.com/all-about-our-memoria-press-homeschool[/url]

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        Re: Talk to me about juggling therapies, multiple children, chores, etc

        Originally posted by DiannaKennedy View Post
        This IS helpful, Cheryl.

        I tend to jump off the deep end into the sea of panic when I perceive something that may derail my finely laid plans. I'm not a good juggler or a sailor who switches midstream. I like a map and a full tank of gas.

        I'm fighting my own sense of failure/incompetence, and it feels like a mountain. I don't talk about it here much, because I know that there are moms here with little ones who need much, much more than my own.

        Keyword for this year -- RELAX.
        I'm laughing with you here! (Not in a patronizing way at all.) Sea of panic indeed -- like there's a vice under your heart that someone cranks tighter whenever The Schedule gets retooled. The pitch in your voice starts to rise like a slowly ascending balloon. You feel a mixture of amusement and powerlessness as you watch it sail into the sky. "Well, there goes my sanity..."

        We had grand plans to finish up the schooling we started last October in time to have a cushion of a week or two off in order to begin SC2 and pre-K the day after Labor Day. Then we found an opportunity to send our older daughter to Art Camp (she has special needs but is gifted in art -- we couldn't pass it up) and, the following week, VBS at our new parish -- again, something my children need to participate in for the sake of making friends and enjoying time outside our home. It was manageable until I took the baby to the pediatrician last week, he took her height and weight measurements and promptly classified her as "failure to thrive". All the exclusive, round-the-clock nursing I've been doing since the second she was born was not enough. At two months old, she weighed as much as her next older brother when he was born and she had fallen off the bottom of the growth chart (she had regained her birth weight pretty quickly, so we were not initially alarmed). So with two solid weeks of events we could not cancel, feeding, pumping, supplementing, drinking lactation tea and eating brewers yeast... You know the psychotic cartoon laugh? And the caricatured "twitchy face"? Yeah -- that's me. SC2 ain't happenin' 'til it happens. Whenever that is.

        The world doesn't revolve around me. My kids need me, but if I fail they have their own resources -- their resource-development sometimes depends on my shortcomings! And God will guide us, protect us and provide for us. I NEED HIM. And He is never so swift to assist as when I just throw my hands up and surrender, asking Him to pick me up like a sweet Daddy does his child. So "give up". Allow yourself to make mistakes and be imperfect. It's freeing! You'll be glad you did.

        It's never as hard as you think. I have this expectation of myself that I should be able to anticipate every possible challenging scenario and be cool, calm and able to handle any variation of danger or craziness that comes along. ... Does that look as ridiculous in print as it sounds in my head? I'm just one person -- in charge of FOUR OTHER PEOPLE. Basic math tells you that it's impossible for me to anticipate every challenge and react appropriately. And, honestly, I don't think that's what's expected of me anyway. My job is to get everyone to "the train on time", not to conduct it. That's why we buy a train ticket instead of a train. I have to let someone else conduct (isn't that what they get paid for?) Know your part, execute your part, allow the conductor to conduct the train. You don't need to worry unless things start going off the rails. Enjoy the train ride and the scenery. Worrying about fire, flood and mass casualties kinda' ruins the trip.

        Deep breath, Mama. I get you. This will be smoooooth sailing. The only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time. Take a few small bites, get your appetite for the new gig(s), then whip out the knife and the steak sauce. You're going to do great. And if you don't, your kids won't even notice. They'll succeed because you did your best -- not because you did it perfectly.

        XOXOXOXO

        This might also help: http://forum.memoriapress.com/showth...ight=Therapies
        Last edited by Anita; 07-28-2016, 06:32 AM.
        Boy Wonder: 10, MP2/SC4 (Special Needs)
        Joy Bubble: 8, MP2 (Special Needs)
        Snuggly Cowboy: 6, MPK
        Sweet Lightness: 2, Reverse-Engineering Specialist

        “Have no fear of moving into the unknown. Simply step out fearlessly knowing that I am with you, therefore no harm can befall you; all is very, very well. Do this in complete faith and confidence.”
        ~Pope St John Paul II

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          #5
          Re: Talk to me about juggling therapies, multiple children, chores, etc

          Dianna,
          I like Cheryl's idea of keeping therapy in the afternoons, rather than one long day in the car and 4 days of school.

          Regarding feeling overwhelmed even though others have children with more severe challenges--some things are harder with more mildly affected SN kids. You might feel more pressure to keep them on track with their peers, or they may be acutely aware of being below their grade level. It's still hard, just different.
          Catherine

          2019-20
          DS16, 10th
          DS13, 7th
          DS11, 6th
          DD11, 6th
          DS7, 1st
          DD4, JrK
          DS 17 mos

          Homeschooling 4 with MP
          2 in classical school

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            Re: Talk to me about juggling therapies, multiple children, chores, etc

            Originally posted by CatherineS View Post
            Dianna,
            I like Cheryl's idea of keeping therapy in the afternoons, rather than one long day in the car and 4 days of school.

            Regarding feeling overwhelmed even though others have children with more severe challenges--some things are harder with more mildly affected SN kids. You might feel more pressure to keep them on track with their peers, or they may be acutely aware of being below their grade level. It's still hard, just different.
            ^^ YES! Thank you for this!!
            Christine

            (2019/2020)
            DD1 8/23/09 - SC5/6
            DS2 9/1/11 - SC3,4, 5/6 combo
            DD3 2/9/13 -SC2 to start, MP1 second semester

            Previous Years
            DD 1 (MPK, SC2 (with AAR), SC3, SC4’
            DS2 (SCB, SCC, MPK, SC2)
            DD3 (SCA, SCB, Jr. K workbooks, soaking up from the others, MPK)

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              Re: Talk to me about juggling therapies, multiple children, chores, etc

              Anita,
              That's very stressful! I hope you can rest. Have you tried MoreMilkPlus herbal supplement from Motherlove? It worked well for me, although it doesn't always help after the first week postpartum.

              I loved what you said about our kids having their own inner resources that don't always get utilized until we acknowledge we can't do it all.
              Catherine

              2019-20
              DS16, 10th
              DS13, 7th
              DS11, 6th
              DD11, 6th
              DS7, 1st
              DD4, JrK
              DS 17 mos

              Homeschooling 4 with MP
              2 in classical school

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                Re: Talk to me about juggling therapies, multiple children, chores, etc

                Anita,

                Sounds like you are having a really stressful time! Praying for you and your baby as you and your doctor figure out how to get her to put on some weight.

                Sarah xo
                Sarah

                Aussies from Sydney, Australia
                Miriam 9yo Latina Christiana, R&S4, IEW Phonetic Zoo, IEW Grammar
                Jonny 7yo (Special Needs) SC1 Phonics, R&S1
                Elissa (almost) 4yo K phonics, R&S Preschool books

                Together this term (in Circle Time) we are doing Bible time with SC1 Story Bible and our own memorisation/songs, Myself and Others 2, Homer Price, Greek Myths, IEW Poetry Memorisation, speech therapy, The Body Book, Artventure and picture books from SCB/SC1 etc.

                Thomas 17 months

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                  #9
                  Re: Talk to me about juggling therapies, multiple children, chores, etc

                  Thanks, ladies

                  She's a little over two months old now and up to a "whopping" 9 lbs 3 oz (as of yesterday). My milk seems fine -- there just isn't enough of it. So I'm drinking Mother's Milk tea, eating brewers yeast, flax meal, oatmeal and taking a multi + extra D ... I'm almost 40 so the LC says it may be age-related. But nursing has never been easy for me either. All three of my previous babies have had to be supplemented. It just wasn't as dramatic a process as this. She has been EBF since the second she was born -- no pacifiers, no bottles, no supplements, we co-sleep, I wear her all the time in my Ergo. I've done everything I possibly can to ensure a good supply. My body just doesn't produce as much as it should.

                  But I will do what I can and leave the rest to God. (And pray for the intercession of St Zelie Martín, St Thèrése of Lisieux's mother. She couldn't nurse her children and had to send them away to a wet nurse... One died of neglect. St Zelie had to pass the woman's house on the way to Mass. She crossed to the other side of the street to avoid the "near occasion of sin", but she always prayed for the woman who ended her baby's life. St Zelie and her husband were canonized on the same day. And their daughter, "The Little Flower" is one of only four female doctors of the church. She's such an amazing model of dignity.) I have a huge stash of donated milk in my freezer now (HOORAY!) and the best formula money can buy, all while still nursing my baby as much as I can on my own. We will get through this!

                  Thank you for your prayers and support.
                  Boy Wonder: 10, MP2/SC4 (Special Needs)
                  Joy Bubble: 8, MP2 (Special Needs)
                  Snuggly Cowboy: 6, MPK
                  Sweet Lightness: 2, Reverse-Engineering Specialist

                  “Have no fear of moving into the unknown. Simply step out fearlessly knowing that I am with you, therefore no harm can befall you; all is very, very well. Do this in complete faith and confidence.”
                  ~Pope St John Paul II

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                    #10
                    Re: Talk to me about juggling therapies, multiple children, chores, etc

                    My middle was labeled "malnurished" by the pediatrician. It was later toned down to "failure to thrive". That's when her food sensitivities came into view. I love my milk and ice cream, but her little belly couldnt digest it as she received it through my milk. She was constantly self cleansing shall we call it, my milk wouldn't stay in her long enough to get any nourishment.

                    With nearly 6 years of hindsight, i think she also has an amazing matabolism. Poor thing is a few short months of turning 6 and she's still not 40 lbs.

                    I think your other kids have some food allergies / sensitivities...maybe this one has some too?
                    Married to DH for 14 years. Living the rural life in the Colorado mountains

                    DS11- Simply Classical 5/6
                    DD9- Simply Classical 5/6 (neurotypical, but schooling with big brother to save mom's sanity)
                    DD 6- Classic Core First Grade

                    We've completed:
                    Classic Core Jr. kindergarten, kindergarten, first grade, and second grade.
                    Simply Classical levels B, C, 1, 2, 3, and 4.

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                      #11
                      Re: Talk to me about juggling therapies, multiple children, chores, etc

                      Originally posted by Colomama View Post
                      My middle was labeled "malnurished" by the pediatrician. It was later toned down to "failure to thrive". That's when her food sensitivities came into view. I love my milk and ice cream, but her little belly couldnt digest it as she received it through my milk. She was constantly self cleansing shall we call it, my milk wouldn't stay in her long enough to get any nourishment.

                      With nearly 6 years of hindsight, i think she also has an amazing matabolism. Poor thing is a few short months of turning 6 and she's still not 40 lbs.

                      I think your other kids have some food allergies / sensitivities...maybe this one has some too?
                      Awww, so sorry! I know that must have been soooo difficult. Glad she's healthy!

                      Nope -- no allergies or sensitivities here. We are super boring. Clementine almost never spits up, even on supplement. And her diapers are normal. I just truly do not make enough to sustain her. At this age, she should get about 3-4 oz per feed. So far, the most I have been able to pump has been 2 oz. And even though a pump is less efficient at drawing milk, when we went in for our lactation evaluation, we weighed her before and after I fed her. She was HUNGRY and hadn't been fed for three hours -- I could only give her 1.25 oz. So it's pretty clear. But, again, fixable. Thankful for my freezer stash and good formula.

                      Back to the original post!
                      Boy Wonder: 10, MP2/SC4 (Special Needs)
                      Joy Bubble: 8, MP2 (Special Needs)
                      Snuggly Cowboy: 6, MPK
                      Sweet Lightness: 2, Reverse-Engineering Specialist

                      “Have no fear of moving into the unknown. Simply step out fearlessly knowing that I am with you, therefore no harm can befall you; all is very, very well. Do this in complete faith and confidence.”
                      ~Pope St John Paul II

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                        #12
                        Re: Talk to me about juggling therapies, multiple children, chores, etc

                        Love St. Zelie. She was a special needs mom too!
                        Catherine

                        2019-20
                        DS16, 10th
                        DS13, 7th
                        DS11, 6th
                        DD11, 6th
                        DS7, 1st
                        DD4, JrK
                        DS 17 mos

                        Homeschooling 4 with MP
                        2 in classical school

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                          #13
                          Re: Talk to me about juggling therapies, multiple children, chores, etc

                          I've been thinking about this post a bit and wanted to put my two cents in. I've had to accept that we are just not going to get as much schoolwork done in a week as I'd like. It's just not possible. We have two days where we go to therapy and one morning a week where we go to a co-op. Obviously we need the therapies, we are doing the co-op because we are pretty new to our area, we desperately need friends, my daughter is super social and really needs the social outlet, and my oldest really needs the social "practice."

                          So we are gone 4.5 hours on Mondays and Tuesdays and 3 hours on Fridays. So that's basically two full school days a week that we're not at home. I'm going to attempt to fit four days of school work into the remaining hours, we'll see how much we accomplish.

                          I went through our subjects and figured out how much time I thought I would need for each. We're doing a loop schedule for all our subjects since our time at home isn't the same most days. We have 20 hours a week for school on our schedule - realistically this isn't all going to be school time - so 80% of that is 16 hours. To get through all our subjects we need 5 hours (this includes therapy practice). So that only gets us 3 days plus a little bit more each week. Maybe we will do a bit of school on Saturdays. Hopefully we can become more efficient as we go on, but some things just aren't possible, and I have to accept that. I have the temptation/habit of throwing up my hands in defeat when my plans don't go the way I want. So I'm trying to be very realistic in my plans to help avoid this.

                          So I guess what I'm trying to say is be realistic, don't set yourself up to fail by expecting too much. It's a challenge to meet the needs of each child in a family, especially when you add special needs on top of that.

                          As for the car, I hope to go over some memory work, but other than that, I'm planning on using the time to listen to great books and music. I actually made a loop schedule for our therapy drive time too, because if I don't have plans, I'll try to do way to many things and not do any of them well. We're going to do a cycle of a chapter of great audio book, the weeks music selection, a history or science story, and another music selection - the poetry cds or classical music or children's music. I'll pick something and we'll listen to that cd for a few weeks and then switch. We'll likely get through that cycle each therapy day since we're in the car for an hour and twenty minutes.

                          Anyways, hope this is helpful. Many of the posts above we helpful to me.
                          Susan

                          2018-2019
                          A (10) - Barton, R&S math 3, SC 3
                          C (9) - Barton, R&S math 2, SC 3
                          G (5) - Simply Classical C

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                            #14
                            Re: Talk to me about juggling therapies, multiple children, chores, etc

                            Originally posted by Anita View Post
                            Thanks, ladies

                            She's a little over two months old now and up to a "whopping" 9 lbs 3 oz (as of yesterday). My milk seems fine -- there just isn't enough of it. So I'm drinking Mother's Milk tea, eating brewers yeast, flax meal, oatmeal and taking a multi + extra D ... I'm almost 40 so the LC says it may be age-related. But nursing has never been easy for me either. All three of my previous babies have had to be supplemented. It just wasn't as dramatic a process as this. She has been EBF since the second she was born -- no pacifiers, no bottles, no supplements, we co-sleep, I wear her all the time in my Ergo. I've done everything I possibly can to ensure a good supply. My body just doesn't produce as much as it should.

                            But I will do what I can and leave the rest to God. (And pray for the intercession of St Zelie Martín, St Thèrése of Lisieux's mother. She couldn't nurse her children and had to send them away to a wet nurse... One died of neglect. St Zelie had to pass the woman's house on the way to Mass. She crossed to the other side of the street to avoid the "near occasion of sin", but she always prayed for the woman who ended her baby's life. St Zelie and her husband were canonized on the same day. And their daughter, "The Little Flower" is one of only four female doctors of the church. She's such an amazing model of dignity.) I have a huge stash of donated milk in my freezer now (HOORAY!) and the best formula money can buy, all while still nursing my baby as much as I can on my own. We will get through this!

                            Thank you for your prayers and support.
                            Anita,

                            Do you ever do a nursing holiday? In other words --- 2 days of nothing but "lying in" - in bed w wee baby and nursing, nursing, nursing. Of course, this would be a feat that would need a lot of assistance for your household and other children, but worth a shot.
                            Plans for 2019-20

                            DD1 - 24 - College Grad and rocking her own bakery business
                            DD2 - 13 - 8A Louisville HLS Cottage School and MPOA
                            DS3 - 11 - 4A Louisville HLS Cottage School
                            DS4 - 11 - 4A Louisville HLS Cottage School
                            DD5 - 7 - MP2, Louisville HLS Cottage School
                            DS6 - 5 - MP K

                            [url]www.thekennedyadventures.com/all-about-our-memoria-press-homeschool[/url]

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                              #15
                              Re: Talk to me about juggling therapies, multiple children, chores, etc

                              Originally posted by sfhargett View Post
                              I've been thinking about this post a bit and wanted to put my two cents in. I've had to accept that we are just not going to get as much schoolwork done in a week as I'd like. It's just not possible. We have two days where we go to therapy and one morning a week where we go to a co-op. Obviously we need the therapies, we are doing the co-op because we are pretty new to our area, we desperately need friends, my daughter is super social and really needs the social outlet, and my oldest really needs the social "practice."

                              So we are gone 4.5 hours on Mondays and Tuesdays and 3 hours on Fridays. So that's basically two full school days a week that we're not at home. I'm going to attempt to fit four days of school work into the remaining hours, we'll see how much we accomplish.

                              I went through our subjects and figured out how much time I thought I would need for each. We're doing a loop schedule for all our subjects since our time at home isn't the same most days. We have 20 hours a week for school on our schedule - realistically this isn't all going to be school time - so 80% of that is 16 hours. To get through all our subjects we need 5 hours (this includes therapy practice). So that only gets us 3 days plus a little bit more each week. Maybe we will do a bit of school on Saturdays. Hopefully we can become more efficient as we go on, but some things just aren't possible, and I have to accept that. I have the temptation/habit of throwing up my hands in defeat when my plans don't go the way I want. So I'm trying to be very realistic in my plans to help avoid this.

                              So I guess what I'm trying to say is be realistic, don't set yourself up to fail by expecting too much. It's a challenge to meet the needs of each child in a family, especially when you add special needs on top of that.

                              As for the car, I hope to go over some memory work, but other than that, I'm planning on using the time to listen to great books and music. I actually made a loop schedule for our therapy drive time too, because if I don't have plans, I'll try to do way to many things and not do any of them well. We're going to do a cycle of a chapter of great audio book, the weeks music selection, a history or science story, and another music selection - the poetry cds or classical music or children's music. I'll pick something and we'll listen to that cd for a few weeks and then switch. We'll likely get through that cycle each therapy day since we're in the car for an hour and twenty minutes.

                              Anyways, hope this is helpful. Many of the posts above we helpful to me.
                              Oh, you have me pegged so well, because you are much like me.

                              Part of what's bothering me is the nebulous-ness of my schedule ( as far as therapy is concerned). I'm leaning heavily toward putting OT on hold, once we get the official results of the VT testing (Friday). I've been reading what I can about VT, and I'm going to push for once weekly. My sanity can't deal with twice weekly trips -- I'd rather drag it out a bit.

                              Like you, Susan (and I am so annoyed at myself that I didn't take the time to say hello at Sodalitas!), we also do a co-op for 'friend purposes'. Thankfully, that's only once per month.

                              Talk to me about how you use your loop schedule. I'm OK w schooling on Sat or Sun, but it will have to be something that doesn't require a lot of hand holding, as my husband isn't good at wrangling the children+feeding them+juggling schoolwork+managing his own phone calls.

                              I've already made a list (compilation of 3/4/5 grade read alouds) of what we can put on in the car.
                              Plans for 2019-20

                              DD1 - 24 - College Grad and rocking her own bakery business
                              DD2 - 13 - 8A Louisville HLS Cottage School and MPOA
                              DS3 - 11 - 4A Louisville HLS Cottage School
                              DS4 - 11 - 4A Louisville HLS Cottage School
                              DD5 - 7 - MP2, Louisville HLS Cottage School
                              DS6 - 5 - MP K

                              [url]www.thekennedyadventures.com/all-about-our-memoria-press-homeschool[/url]

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