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    General Update (With Big News)

    Hi all,

    I haven’t really posted in awhile because it’s been so ... indescribable here. Long and short?

    1) We are still unemployed
    2) We are using the food bank at our parish once a month
    3) We have Medicaid but do not (for some inexplicable reason) qualify for food assistance
    4) My husband has submitted over 60 applications, has been turned down by 9 employers, been on one interview where the salary was found to be less than half what we made previously, has opened his own LLC consulting firm, been to job fairs, career connections, has done extensive networking, etc.. Still no offers. But he does have a three-week contract job coming up in the next two weeks that pays a couple mortgage payments, so that’s nice.
    5) We are of the mind that I need to start working again; something flexible, remote or second shift. This is not what we “want”, necessarily, but it’s not really our choice right now.
    6) With all of the above happening, plus the unevenness of our schooling in general (moving, toddler, stressors, life changes) we applied to a local public charter school and were accepted.

    A bit about “school”:
    When we moved to Colorado, my wish was that we could get the kids into a private, Classical Catholic school. There is one in Denver that looks PERFECT for that. It’s got the works — you name it. I wanted this because — honestly — schooling all my children every day was starting to be — was past —excruciating.

    We *could* do it, but I almost always felt like we weren’t doing it well. I was exhausted every day; fought with my children frequently — especially my oldest — and work that should have taken an hour seemed to take three, simply because there were SO. MANY. INTERRUPTIONS (cue the toddler, husband, and older son — who will not stop resisting me and/or talking/complaining/grumbling/whining constantly about nothing and anything and getting distracted by literally ANYTHING he can sense or manufacture). I was and am just... done. I’m done.

    I thought it just might be Summer blues, but honestly, this has been building up for awhile. Constantly being with my children — all day, every day — for the past ten years and, now, not having the money to have any other choice BUT to be with them (even if we go to the zoo, the park, the Natural History Museum, etc. I am still required to be with them the entire time) has just worn me down to a nub. Add to that a husband who is now constantly home, and I am seriously claustrophobic. It has defeated my will to home school. I need a break. And I need to give my children more than they are currently getting. With private school out of the picture, but with the counterbalance of my emphatic belief in homeschooling, I was extremely conflicted.

    Maybe if I just tough it out another semester...”
    “Maybe if we got financial aid...but I know we don’t qualify...”
    “I really need to go back to work, we have no income...”
    “I can’t work and homeschool at the same time, I’ll end up working myself to death.”
    “I’m drowning in this house with these people. I’m starting to wonder if this is even worth it.


    Stop right there.

    When you’re in psychological pain every day, constantly wondering how you’re going to make it through the next hour — let alone the next semester — and every nerve ending is on fire with the need to flee the scene, you might want to stop and reevaluate. There are certain situations where you need to push through the pain, absolutely. But there are also certain situations where you need to acknowledge defeat and make other plans, ask for help, and strategize a solution that doesn’t involve changing your identity and moving to Barbados. Basically, if we keep homeschooling, I’m not going to be okay. I need to get okay.

    But I wasn’t sure what to do (because I never know when to cry “uncle!” when I’m in peril) so I took it to prayer. The charter school was out of district from us and the open enrollment period was over. We also just moved here and have never been enrolled in any school anywhere. (How does this stuff even work?) I decided that admissions would be my “fleece before the Lord”.

    I asked Him about getting the kids into private school when we first moved here and said that if that’s not what He wanted for us that He should slam the door in my face — HARD. He did. Immediately. Charter school admission was in the same vein. If we got in, I’d take it as a green light from the Lord. If we didn’t, I’d take it as a sign that we should continue homeschooling. (Maybe I just needed a week of self-taught teacher training and lesson plan preparation.) I applied over the Summer online. No one was in the office until yesterday. So I called... and they have room for all my school-aged children, plus a special needs department.

    They have a dress code, conduct code, they teach Latin, have band, chorus, drama, chess club, a great science department, excellent advancement outcomes by students from one grade to the next, high test scores, and an 8.5 out of 10 on GreatSchools. But I also read some unfavorable comments from “parents” that their effectiveness against bullying was not great (but who knows if what you read on the net is ever true). However, there were just as many — more — comments that said that the school was terrific. Either way, it’s the best school within driving distance from us that doesn’t cost $15,000 a year. Now, all we have to do is get our vital records together, take them to the school, take a tour, pay some fees, buy dress code-appropriate attire and school supplies and get started on an IEP for Boy Wonder with the Special Needs Director. School starts in a week and-a-half. There is an open house, followed by a school picnic on the lawn the week before.

    I am every emotion right now. I woke up at 1AM, going over and over and over my fears and hopes, and wondering how on earth I am going to find a job that’s worth anything after 11 years outside the workforce. I started walking about two miles every day, before dawn, with my Golden Retriever and we are swimming or attending classes at the rec center a few times a week as well. That has definitely helped, as has prayer and my daily nap with the baby. But things are still tenuous. I hope and pray in faith that we are making the right decisions for our family. This is a lot of change, to say the least, and I know it will all work out. But, like a roller coaster, we just need to get over that frightening click, click, click of the first big hill.

    So that’s what’s going on here! If y’all can offer me some encouragement and “it’s going to be okay” I would greatly appreciate it. I’m quite nervous about this whole thing.
    Boy Wonder: 10, MP2/SC4 (Special Needs)
    Joy Bubble: 8, MP2 (Special Needs)
    Snuggly Cowboy: 6, MPK
    Sweet Lightness: 2, Reverse-Engineering Specialist

    “Have no fear of moving into the unknown. Simply step out fearlessly knowing that I am with you, therefore no harm can befall you; all is very, very well. Do this in complete faith and confidence.”
    ~Pope St John Paul II

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    Re: General Update (With Big News)

    I’m so glad things are falling into place for you! Sent you a PM.
    Jennifer
    Blog: [url]www.seekingdelectare.com[/url]

    DS16: MP, MPOA, HSC, Breaking the Barrier French
    DS15: MP, MPOA, HSC
    DS12: Mash-up of 6/7M
    DS11: SC 4
    DD9: 3A with First Form Latin (long story!)
    DD8: Mash-up of SC 1/2
    DD5: January birthday, using SC B and C as a two-year JrK

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      #3
      Re: General Update (With Big News)

      Anita!

      Thank you for sharing this with us. May God bless you in your new adventures. I sure hope you will pop in and keep in touch! You have much to offer us here!
      Christine

      (2019/2020)
      DD1 8/23/09 - SC5/6
      DS2 9/1/11 - SC3,4, 5/6 combo
      DD3 2/9/13 -SC2 to start, MP1 second semester

      Previous Years
      DD 1 (MPK, SC2 (with AAR), SC3, SC4’
      DS2 (SCB, SCC, MPK, SC2)
      DD3 (SCA, SCB, Jr. K workbooks, soaking up from the others, MPK)

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        #4
        Re: General Update (With Big News)

        Thank you, Anita. Remember that like all things, "This too shall pass." Think of it as a diagnostic year and, we hope, a therapeutic year!

        Your oldest is especially transitioning not just to the externals of moving but the internals of becoming a preteen male. As the oldest child, he may thrive with the daily structure, the less emotional "drama" of home, and a school-regulated schedule.

        You, too, may enjoy the normalcy of a routine outside home, if only for a time. Think of it as respite work!

        You may find that the grass was plenty green back in homeschooling, or you may find that some imposed structure benefits everyone in your home. I do feel for your husband. This must be especially hard on him, but maybe good will come even of that.

        I would caution not to toss out everything you have learned about your children, and of course you will not! You know that your oldest responds (or responded) well to Dad, so that will continue. Help them write everything you have learned into that I.E.P. You are still his advocate.

        You and your daughter are creative souls, so you can share some art time, or whatever she enjoys these days. And so on with all of your children. You are still Mama, so especially on your days off you can still enjoy what you have most enjoyed with them.

        We will be praying for your family, your children, your children's teachers, and for you and your husband during this unexpected time.

        Know that you have given your children a firm foundation. When you began, your son was not speaking -- for years! -- and now he is reading well and even studying Latin. I pray that he will adjust smoothly. I do hope class sizes are small or at least reasonable. It would seem that all of your children would benefit from well-ordered classrooms.

        All of this uncertainty may surprise you with bountiful goodness in the end, and such things certainly drive us to our only certain hope and help. We are with you and intend to see you through! Keep us posted --

        Cheryl

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          Re: General Update (With Big News)

          Dear Anita,

          I'm so glad you reached out and updated us. I'm here to say "It's going to be okay." What you describe does sound amazing! WOW! All you can do is put one front in front of the other and step out in faith, knowing the Lord will make a way (either at the school or in some other situation.) You join the ranks of a gazillion homeschool moms who have had to make changes and keep plans held loosely in the palms of their hands, facing upward in complete submission to Him who knows all things.

          I'm right there with you ....right now this summer....wondering how much longer I can do this. We're entering our 9th homeschool year. We've never once finished a year in a year. We've spent this summer not having a summer while we finish last year's work. And I'm one spent, exhausted, done momma. I'd love to say my cup runneth over, spilling forth more to give. But it's bare bones here. And I've questioned whether I can do this another year. I don't have the option you have. So it's public school (with a special needs babysitting class) or what I'm doing. Pray for me while I pray for you, please.

          Big, big hugs and love,

          SusanP in your ol' Commonwealth

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            Re: General Update (With Big News)

            Oh, Susan. I'm sorry to hear this. Praying for both of you and for all of us. This is a hard, sometimes relentless calling. Let us all take good care of ourselves as we care for our families.

            Pax Domini --

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              #7
              Re: General Update (With Big News)

              Originally posted by SPearson View Post
              Dear Anita,

              I'm so glad you reached out and updated us. I'm here to say "It's going to be okay." What you describe does sound amazing! WOW! All you can do is put one front in front of the other and step out in faith, knowing the Lord will make a way (either at the school or in some other situation.) You join the ranks of a gazillion homeschool moms who have had to make changes and keep plans held loosely in the palms of their hands, facing upward in complete submission to Him who knows all things.

              I'm right there with you ....right now this summer....wondering how much longer I can do this. We're entering our 9th homeschool year. We've never once finished a year in a year. We've spent this summer not having a summer while we finish last year's work. And I'm one spent, exhausted, done momma. I'd love to say my cup runneth over, spilling forth more to give. But it's bare bones here. And I've questioned whether I can do this another year. I don't have the option you have. So it's public school (with a special needs babysitting class) or what I'm doing. Pray for me while I pray for you, please.

              Big, big hugs and love,

              SusanP in your ol' Commonwealth
              (((((Susan)))))

              Firstly, I love that passsage. It is exactly the sentiment I have. And I know things change for homeschooling families all the time. As hard as we’ve worked over the years, and as staunch an advocate of homeschooling as I continue to be, I don’t feel like a “failure” or a “traitor” in this discernment process. It’s simply something that needs to be done. It feels no different to me than a doctor’s prescription or a therapist’s OT. It’s like that ninth month of pregnancy — you are anxious about labor and the demands of a newborn, but you just CANNOT endure being pregnant for one more second. Life requires flexibility. It would be unwise for me to be so rigid that I refused to embrace that.

              For us, with so much change having happened in the last few years (which, honestly, feels like a pittance compared to some other Moms) we’ve just not had a chance to catch our breath long before another hill appears for us to sprint up; it’s exhausting; I’m tired. I need to be able to outsource some work so that I can recover.

              My children, too, need more community. Besides some neighbor children that my kids play with occasionally, we literally have no friends. Of course we have each other — my children play wonderfully together — but it’s not great for morale, spending yet another weekend just looking at each other. We, of course, do special things with the children all year. But again — that’s more parental energy and little extra-family connection. My oldest, especially, is at the age where he needs stimuli beyond our family unit.

              I am an introvert. I do just fine only seeing and interacting with people for short periods each day or even for short periods each week. I don’t like noise, big parties, bright lights or disorder. I like libraries, coffee shops and dinners among a few close friends. My son, like my husband, is likely an extrovert. He likes to be where the action is. Even if he doesn’t speak to a single person, he craves being around activity. He’s also at the age where he doesn’t need as much supervision. He’d much rather be given a list of things to do and left alone to do them. (This is something we do quite often here.) He’s responsible. He needs more challenge. He craves friendship and camaraderie among his peers.

              My daughter is highly artistic, linguistic and creative. She needs daily instruction in the arts. She’s not getting that at home. She reads constantly; writes little stories for us and draws amazing pictures or creates exciting things. As many art supplies as we own and as artistic as I am myself, we have a toddler — a sneaky, exuberant toddler. She has already grabbed crayons, pencils, pens and Sharpie markers at least four times now and graffitied whatever she is tall enough to reach. Doing ANY kind of art project right now feels like a gigantic undertaking and a fight waiting to happen.

              For these and the needs of my younger two children, it would make sense to take art classes or find a homeschool choir or... We are unemployed. We don’t have the resources. And I am horrible at tracking down and connecting with extracurricular programs. I’m too busy running a home and homeschooling to have much energy left for hours of internet research. I’ve also found that most homeschool extracurricular groups are either closed, too far for us to consistently drive, exclusive to a certain age group, don’t offer accommodation for special needs, or all of the above. I also have mandatory daily nap time at my house. We can do things from 8-1. After that, the day just falls off until it’s time to make dinner. And 8-1 is when we are schooling anyway.

              This would be fine if school were actually getting done. But it’s hit or miss. And as I explained in the OP, we may have all the good intentions in the world, but... #life

              I sometimes feel like I would be great at teaching — if I didn’t have to school my own kids. I love the material; it’s easy and rewarding to teach. But the drama of getting it done is just “yikes”. Despite having started school within a week of moving to Colorado (in April) and having tried consistently to do at least some school every week, we are still on Week 5 in our lesson plans. It is obviously now August. That scares me. I am not the least bit satisfied with that.

              So I completely understand, Susan. I wonder if there are more options for you than you might think, though. Do you have any charter schools in your area? Are there any schools out of district that you could apply to? The school we are looking at is both. It’s a 30-minute drive one way. But that’s closer than all the private schools we looked at. You might also put all your children in school except your special needs child, if you’re concerned about “babysitting”. Then you’d only have one child to school. (For me, I always said either my oldest would be the only child at home or the only child at school. I could likely homeschool either him alone or all his siblings together much better than the combination. He is just my most challenging child. He likely always will be.)

              Either way, you don’t need more work to do, you need less. I wish it were easier to find labor-saving tactics that didn’t put the burden of finding them on you. Because I know when you’re exhausted, having even the smallest additional task feels like climbing Mt Everest.

              Ask for help. Cry out to the Lord. Ask Him to reveal His will for you. Ask Him to make it clear. Ask Him to arrange circumstances so that you don’t constantly feel like you’re drowning. Surviving is not the same as living. You can’t get water from an empty well.

              Huge prayers, hugs and support to you, Susan. This is not easy. If it were, everyone would be doing it. <3
              Last edited by Anita; 08-03-2018, 08:48 AM.
              Boy Wonder: 10, MP2/SC4 (Special Needs)
              Joy Bubble: 8, MP2 (Special Needs)
              Snuggly Cowboy: 6, MPK
              Sweet Lightness: 2, Reverse-Engineering Specialist

              “Have no fear of moving into the unknown. Simply step out fearlessly knowing that I am with you, therefore no harm can befall you; all is very, very well. Do this in complete faith and confidence.”
              ~Pope St John Paul II

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                #8
                Re: General Update (With Big News)

                Anita,

                You are so brave to step out this way, reimagining your family’s life together. You have done so much for your kids, now it’s time for a new stage. How wonderfully God has made a way with the school. God bless you and your family.

                It sounds like this change is going to bring you all some space and opportunity to truly enjoy one another when you have family time.

                Praying for you and your family. You have been so so helpful to me as I have been beginning my special needs home ed journey...I will really miss your presence here.

                And Susan, praying for you too. Such hard decisions, so hard to make. Praying for clarity and restoration for you.
                Sarah

                Aussies from Sydney, Australia
                Miriam 10yo
                Jonathan 7yo
                Elissa 4yo
                Thomas nearly 2yo
                Baby due 1st July 2020

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                  #9
                  Re: General Update (With Big News)

                  Anita, what a big leap. A relief, but a new stressor all the same.

                  I think just like deciding to homeschool the first time, deciding to out school you need to make a commitment. And that needs to be clear to the kids. No coming home whining and demanding to homeschool, they're there for the year unless something catastrophic happens at school. That gives you the known breathing room you need.

                  You've done amazing things with your kids. Things that would've slipped through the cracks if they weren't home. But, you've done what the Lord led you to do and now it's time to release them back into the world. The Lord is leading you now to care for yourself. A happier mom will lead to a happier home.

                  I agree with you, I think I could do a much better job either schooling the oldest by himself or schooling the youngest by themselves. The combination is what drives a lady insane.

                  If we had the option that you found, I would jump on it too. Sadly, our local district has the amazing record of 27% of kids testing at grade level in elementary. No thanks.

                  You're not quitting or giving up. You're embracing a new path. A good, healthy path.

                  In addition to meeting for IEP, which might be very enlightening with a skilled practioner, meet with the teacher for an hour. The IEP may take weeks or months to finalize. The teacher needs to hit the ground running in a week. Desk placement and visual cues should start on day one. He may need more help to stay organized or understand classroom structure and dynamics. W meeting the teacher and seeing the classroom ahead of time can be very beneficial. "You will put your backpack here, you will sit here, the teacher sits there, etc" can relieve anxiety. Talk about how many kids will be in the hallway, and his class.

                  We went through the IEP with my boy last year. It was very enlightening. They gave the full Woodcock- Johnson test. I learned of his low IQ and his short term memory issues for the first time, but it took months to complete. So, be prepared for that.

                  Prayers needed up here too: we went through annual physicals on Tuesdayand it was recommended we go back to the ENT and audiologist. I thought we had crossed that bridge years ago, but it appears we're getting back on that merry go round. Our apt is the 18th.

                  And the middle child is hardly growing. They're concerned about her nutrition intake given her food allergies. Her weight isn't even on the chart and her height is 5%. I don't know whether to truly be concerned or whether to say she just a petite child.
                  Married to DH for 14 years. Living the rural life in the Colorado mountains

                  DS11- Simply Classical 5/6
                  DD9- Simply Classical 5/6 (neurotypical, but schooling with big brother to save mom's sanity)
                  DD 6- Classic Core First Grade

                  We've completed:
                  Classic Core Jr. kindergarten, kindergarten, first grade, and second grade.
                  Simply Classical levels B, C, 1, 2, 3, and 4.

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                    #10
                    Re: General Update (With Big News)

                    Prayers for you and your children, Colomama! Those physical needs can be real and unsettling. Keep us posted on this.

                    The good part is that they have you to see it through and to make any needed changes for them!

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                      #11
                      Re: General Update (With Big News)

                      Originally posted by Colomama View Post
                      Anita, what a big leap. A relief, but a new stressor all the same.

                      I think just like deciding to homeschool the first time, deciding to out school you need to make a commitment. And that needs to be clear to the kids. No coming home whining and demanding to homeschool, they're there for the year unless something catastrophic happens at school. That gives you the known breathing room you need.

                      You've done amazing things with your kids. Things that would've slipped through the cracks if they weren't home. But, you've done what the Lord led you to do and now it's time to release them back into the world. The Lord is leading you now to care for yourself. A happier mom will lead to a happier home.

                      I agree with you, I think I could do a much better job either schooling the oldest by himself or schooling the youngest by themselves. The combination is what drives a lady insane.

                      If we had the option that you found, I would jump on it too. Sadly, our local district has the amazing record of 27% of kids testing at grade level in elementary. No thanks.

                      You're not quitting or giving up. You're embracing a new path. A good, healthy path.

                      In addition to meeting for IEP, which might be very enlightening with a skilled practioner, meet with the teacher for an hour. The IEP may take weeks or months to finalize. The teacher needs to hit the ground running in a week. Desk placement and visual cues should start on day one. He may need more help to stay organized or understand classroom structure and dynamics. W meeting the teacher and seeing the classroom ahead of time can be very beneficial. "You will put your backpack here, you will sit here, the teacher sits there, etc" can relieve anxiety. Talk about how many kids will be in the hallway, and his class.

                      We went through the IEP with my boy last year. It was very enlightening. They gave the full Woodcock- Johnson test. I learned of his low IQ and his short term memory issues for the first time, but it took months to complete. So, be prepared for that.
                      There is so much I want to say to this, but time does not allow.

                      Short version:

                      Thank you.

                      I agree.

                      We are touring the school on Monday. We will meet with the Special Ed teacher then. Thank you for the reminders, hints, and troubleshooting. I’m so focused on being nervous, my brain has not really come online to think about this stuff.

                      My kids are 6, 8 and 10 and they’ve been placed in 1st, 2nd and 3rd grades, respectively.

                      I’m happy that my daughter is getting 2nd. That’s right where she needs to be.

                      My older son, too, is about where he needs to be — skill, age and maturity-wise. He’s far too old for 2nd, though that might be where he places academically. But he will need the most accommodation, so I’m not too worried about his being strictly “on grade level”. Thankfully, I have boxes full of his completed work to bring to the initial meeting.

                      I’m the most worried about my rising 1st-grader. We are only now in FSRA. He’s doing amazing, but he still may have a lot of catch-up to do, depending on what the school’s 1st Grade curriculum dictates. (Eeeeek!)

                      This is where I am happy to have a homeschooling background. I’m used to teaching my kids. So hopefully that translates into doing regular things like homework and extra studying to remediate rough patches. (Although I suspect an MP education has done a phenomenal job in preparing them academically!)

                      The school uses Singapore math, which looks very different from R&S. I’m mentally preparing buying the teachers edition for each of their grades so I can better help them at home.

                      Of course I’m curious to know what other materials they use — especially Latin and literature. I’m chomping at the bit to get my hands on their book lists.

                      I’m also thinking about how to incorporate Catechesis and Bible into our days now. Maybe breakfast time and after school?

                      We also need to establish a homework routine from the time we get home until dinner begins.

                      The school is a Core Knowledge school (not to be confused with Common Core), so they recommend having Ed Hirsch’s books (What Your First Grader Needs To Know, etc.) on hand at home.

                      It’s a lot to think about.

                      Once a teacher, always a teacher, right?
                      *************

                      Prayers needed up here too: we went through annual physicals on Tuesdayand it was recommended we go back to the ENT and audiologist. I thought we had crossed that bridge years ago, but it appears we're getting back on that merry go round. Our apt is the 18th.

                      And the middle child is hardly growing. They're concerned about her nutrition intake given her food allergies. Her weight isn't even on the chart and her height is 5%. I don't know whether to truly be concerned or whether to say she just a petite child.
                      Talk to me more about this? I don’t know what an ENT is or why you need audiology. We’ve never had to deal with that. But I can imagine anything you thought you were “done with” reoccurring is highly stressful.

                      As far as growth charts, I understand. My toddler was diagnosed as “failure to thrive” as an infant (when I stubbornly refused to acknowledge that I don’t make enough milk and just kept nursing her around the clock like all the books advised). That’s some scary stuff. And getting to the bottom of it was painful. I felt so guilty as a mom, even though I was doing everything “right”. Thank God it was detected, though, and we got in with a good lactation consultant. We inherited a giant bag of frozen milk from a friend of mine, supplemented with formula, continued to nurse, she started gaining weight and now she’s a perfect two-year old.

                      I’m certain that there is a solution for you, too — be it a re-evaluation if her body type or her nutrition, or both. But DO NOT FEEL GUILTY ABOUT ANY OF IT. You’re an amazing mom. And no one doubts that you do your best for all your children. <3

                      Keep me posted.
                      Boy Wonder: 10, MP2/SC4 (Special Needs)
                      Joy Bubble: 8, MP2 (Special Needs)
                      Snuggly Cowboy: 6, MPK
                      Sweet Lightness: 2, Reverse-Engineering Specialist

                      “Have no fear of moving into the unknown. Simply step out fearlessly knowing that I am with you, therefore no harm can befall you; all is very, very well. Do this in complete faith and confidence.”
                      ~Pope St John Paul II

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                        #12
                        Re: General Update (With Big News)

                        Not colomama, but ENT is an ear, nose, and throat specialist.

                        http://www.boogordoctor.com/
                        Not sure the blog has been updated much lately, but full of great info from the smartest guy I know.
                        Dorinda

                        For 2019-2020
                        DD 16 - 11th with MPOA(AP Latin), Lukeion (Greek4 & Adv. NT Greek), Thinkwell (Economics and Chemistry), plus Pre-Calculus, American G’ment, Early Church History set, and British Lit
                        DS 14 - 8th with MPOA(Fourth Form), CLRC(Intro Lit and Comp), plus Algebra, Field Biology, Classical Studies 1
                        DS 11 - 6th with Right Start Level G online class
                        DS 6 - 1st with Prima Latina

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                          #13
                          Re: General Update (With Big News)

                          Originally posted by Mom2mthj View Post
                          Not colomama, but ENT is an ear, nose, and throat specialist.

                          http://www.boogordoctor.com/
                          Not sure the blog has been updated much lately, but full of great info from the smartest guy I know.
                          Aha! I knew what an ENT was but thought (duh) it was some abbreviation for a new kind of therapist (there is a veritable alphabet soup of them now!). Thanks for clearing that up.
                          Boy Wonder: 10, MP2/SC4 (Special Needs)
                          Joy Bubble: 8, MP2 (Special Needs)
                          Snuggly Cowboy: 6, MPK
                          Sweet Lightness: 2, Reverse-Engineering Specialist

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                            #14
                            Re: General Update (With Big News)

                            When I kept complaining that he wasn't developing as his peers were, that he made no noises when they were jabbering. When he stayed silent when they started saying first words. When he was still silent when they started talking in three word sentences. I was FINALLY referred to an audiologist. Up to that point I heard every excuse under the sun for his quietness, mostly that he was just a boy and I shouldn't be worried.

                            Turns out he couldn't hear. his cochlea worked just fine, but his eardrums were so swollen with fluid that they barely moved. Tubes were placed and speech therapy began. No improvement. He finally started using consonant sounds at 2.5.

                            The merry-go-round of audiology and ENT visits continued every 6months until he aged out of early intervention services. Then the IEP merry go round started in kindergarten. He was diagnosed with a moderate hearing loss, but no need for hearing-aids. He was quickly removed from his IEP, which I thought was a good thing. Fail. Kindergarten was a fail.

                            And thus began the great big adventure known as homeschooling.

                            I think his last hearing test was 4 or 5 years ago. It showed his hearing was still moderately impaired, but stable. He had burst his eardrums multiple times from asymptomatic infections and has permanent scarring.

                            I fear we are headed towards hearing aids. I've noticed a decline in his hearing, but I thought he was just purposely ignoring me as pre-teen boys are known to do. Do they put tubes in 10 year olds? I thought that was a little kid thing.
                            Married to DH for 14 years. Living the rural life in the Colorado mountains

                            DS11- Simply Classical 5/6
                            DD9- Simply Classical 5/6 (neurotypical, but schooling with big brother to save mom's sanity)
                            DD 6- Classic Core First Grade

                            We've completed:
                            Classic Core Jr. kindergarten, kindergarten, first grade, and second grade.
                            Simply Classical levels B, C, 1, 2, 3, and 4.

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                              #15
                              Re: General Update (With Big News)

                              Anita, given the above history, I walked into our IEP meeting last year well-prepared, as will you. Review the chapters in Cheryl's book that pertain to doctors meetings.

                              I calmly explained his history. I presented test results, observations and school samples. I then said, "I just want everyone to understand that I am my son's best advocate. I know him and his history. I will fight to the end for him. I expect frequent updates. I expect clear answers. I will stop by unexpectedly to make sure things are going as they should. In short, I am going to be all up in your business. Don't be offended by that."

                              And then get all up in their business. Be the squeaky wheel. Advocate for your children as you always have because no one else at that table will.
                              Married to DH for 14 years. Living the rural life in the Colorado mountains

                              DS11- Simply Classical 5/6
                              DD9- Simply Classical 5/6 (neurotypical, but schooling with big brother to save mom's sanity)
                              DD 6- Classic Core First Grade

                              We've completed:
                              Classic Core Jr. kindergarten, kindergarten, first grade, and second grade.
                              Simply Classical levels B, C, 1, 2, 3, and 4.

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